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Saturday
Jan012011

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Saturday
Jan012011

Overcoming Fear Of Success: 3 Amazing Tips To Conquer Fear Of Success And Enjoy It by Michael Lee 

Everyone has heard of the fear of failure, but what is this article overcoming fear of success all about? Why would anyone fear success in the first place?

Surprising as it sounds, there are quite a lot of people who have difficulty overcoming fear of success. Their fear stems from a lot of different things. Others think that once you’re up, the only way left is down. Or that the higher you are, the faster you fall. Others are afraid of added responsibilities and getting out of their comfort zone.

If you feel like one of these people, read this article and find out how you can free yourself from this damaging belief.

Tip # 1: Focus On The Greater Rewards.

One effective way of overcoming fear of success is by focusing on the rewards that come with it. Getting promoted might mean more work or more criticism, but you do get a better salary and opportunities to better yourself.

Focus on all the positive things that come with being successful. In time, you’ll be able to drown out the fear of more work and more eyes on you.

Tip # 2: Don’t Compete With Others.

Competition can be healthy in the workplace; but if you can’t stand the heat, I suggest you turn your attention on competing with yourself instead.

A lot of people get more insecure the higher they are on the corporate ladder. They constantly compare themselves to those who have also reached the same kind of success as they have.

To keep yourself from falling for this trap, devote your time and energy into making yourself better than you were the day before. Focus on self-growth and not on “I want to be better than this guy.”

Tip # 3: Remember That Mistakes Can Help You Succeed.

By seeing a mistake or failure as a stepping stone, you’ll have an easier time overcoming fear of success.

The pressure at the top can be unbearable, but that’s only because you forgot how to breathe. Nobody’s perfect. If you find yourself facing a failed project or endeavor, learn from it. Don’t dwell on it. Use it as fuel to keep you going and going.

These are just some of the ways on overcoming fear of success. Try them out one step at a time. Learn to trust yourself more. Build your confidence and don’t let fear get to you. After all, courage is not the absence of fear. It’s being afraid and going ahead with the plan anyway. Everyone feels scared at some point in their life. Don’t let it cripple you though. Draw strength from it and you’ll go places.





Article Source: http://www.positivearticles.com



Saturday
Jan012011

Beating the Challenges of Life by Sam Davis

Life is so very full of challenges. They'll meet you in various situations and some are harder to overcome than others. The most difficult ones tend to be internal - those that test a part of who you are.

This type of challenge is the toughest because it pushes you to break out of your deepest mentally engrained habits. It's never going to be easy to escape something that you've trained yourself into repeatedly doing. Once the mind picks up a routine of something, be it positive or negative, it gains momentum in forming that activity as a personal habit.

Most people tend to neglect their deepest personal challenges. They find the negative aspects of themselves so overwhelming that they instead opt to live around them, rather than head straight through them. They do this for two simple reasons...

1. It seems to be easier living with personal challenges pushed into a dark corner. It is way out of most people's comfort zones to be exposing their weaknesses. Because of this, their instinct is to hide away what they see as a problem in order to stay firmly in the easy-living comfort zone.

Long term, it's actually more difficult living with personal challenges kept at bay. They surface themselves regardless of what you do to contain them! If you think about your past week, did anything bring you down at all? If it did, then there was a challenge for you in there somewhere. The only way to overcome it would be to tackle it head on, instead of pushing it into the background, only for it to come back later.

2. People don't realise the endless possibilities that could become reality if they did overcome their hardest personal challenges. They don't see how great they're capable of becoming if they do put themselves through what they fear most. When you can't see the positive gains that would be in it for you, then it's natural that you won't act.

I can sympathise with this. Before you become enlightened on what is achievable by breaking personal challenges, you might find it very difficult to visualise the ways that the process will make life better. The initial solution here is to have some faith that something good will happen if you challenge yourself in what you see as an uncomfortable, personal weakness.

This is where the possibilities 'snowball' starts rolling. You might start out initially by consciously changing one very small habitual problem. When you realise the tiny benefits to the action you've taken, you begin to see the bigger picture. The greater the challenge you face, the greater the rewards are when you are done with that problem!

This is where self improvement exposes itself as being fair. The more you invest in it, the greater the life experiences it will provide you with. Ultimately, living a life of abundance in anything that you desire is impossible without continuous growth, and that means facing things you'd rather ignore!

The best way to look at a personal challenge is to think of it as a huge test. Imagine it as a test of your congruence to see just how much you really want to conquer the challenge that you are trying to break. Those that are unworthy of the benefits brought about by beating their inner-most challenges will fall by the wayside. They'll be beaten by the consistency that it takes. Their "Is it all worth it?" thoughts will get the better of them.

In order to avoid the above common reality, you'll need to embrace the fact that these moments will happen to you whilst facing your personal challenges. Such thoughts are almost unavoidable to the imperfect human being, which describes us all. You'll have two conscious choices in these moments of 'relief searching'. You can:

A. Realise that moments where you nearly give up are the essence of the challenge itself. They are the moments that, if shown mental strength during, determine you as worthy of what it is you are trying to achieve. Or...

B. You could give up. Go back to old ways, left wondering what might've been!

To choose A. in these tough moments is to demonstrate to whatever you believe controls the world that you merit the new lease of life that you are chasing. You'll have provided solid experience related proof that you thoroughly deserve to achieve your goal. You can enjoy things so much more when you know that you've shown strength and courage to gain them.

It's an important moment when you realise that the best things in life only go to those that strive to deem themselves worthy. Like I said, opportunities to show that you are deserving of a fantastic life occur every day in the form of personal challenges.

Make the push to face that which you fear or dislike most about yourself, and the possibilities in life become endless. To discover new ways of facing difficult aspects of life, go to the following address at my site:

http://www.worldofselfimprovement.com/positive-self-talk.html

Much Love

Sam Davis



Sam Davis is a self improvement writer who's passion is to help others have happier, more fulfilling lives. He writes about pretty much anything that works towards building happiness in people such as self confidence, becoming more attractive and building luxury lifestyles. Visit his website http://www.worldofselfimprovement.com/ to see the majority of his productions so far!

Article Source: http://www.positivearticles.com


Monday
Dec202010

Wanting vs Having

By: Angeloc

 

We usually don’t give much thought to the distinction between “wanting” and “having”, we usually just say, “this is what I want, what do I have to do to get it?” But it’s a distinction that makes all the difference in what actually shows up for us in life.

Wanting implies “NOT having” and having implies “no need for wanting”. Both are a state of “being” and as long as you remain in that state of “wanting”, life accepts this “wanting” state as your true desire and so continues to have your circumstances reflect that, i.e. still wanting!

By knowing this, if you truly want to see a change in your circumstances, you need to change your focus so that you “feel” that you already “have” what you want. Through that feeling (which is usually a feeling of joy, abundance and freedom), life will begin to reflect that in the world.

The reason being is that what we think, feel and receive is always a match, so if you behave as though you already have everything you want internally, life will match that in your external world.


The key to this is to have a good attitude no matter what happens, always look for the silver lining. Feeling good in this moment puts you in harmony with life rather than resisting it and that sets you up to receiving the richness you already have inside.

It’s not enough to consciously think something positive, if the feeling remains sour, then that’s what will be the dominant creative force within you. So to receive good things, focus on feeling good things (whatever that may be) and know that you already have it and you will succeed, GUARANTEED.

You may ask, how can this be guaranteed? Because you have already succeeded many times with the things you didn’t know you wanted. This is what happens when you feel fear, for example. When the fear becomes the dominant feeling, you receive the thing you were fearful of. Life doesn’t judge anything as good or bad so it simply gives you whatever is dominant in you.

We often think of things happening in life, in term of luck, something pleasant is “good luck”, something unpleasant is “bad luck”. But “luck” is a cop out and denial of responsibility for what shows up. Everything stems from us either consciously or unconsciously (most of the time it’s unconscious). This is not about blame or any other condemning description, it’s simply about accepting that each one of us is a creator and when we are not aware of what’s happening within us, life seems to happen to us and we “hope” we’ll be “lucky”.

The interesting thing is that in reality the power that it takes to have things show up that are unpleasant is the same power that it takes to have pleasant things show up, it’s really no different. The only distinction is that each of us have learned a mode of operating that we are comfortable with (and for a lot us that mode is one scarcity and struggle). When we make attempts to change that mode, it usually causes no ultimate change because it’s like trying to use a twig to change the direction of a fast flowing river!

So how do you start to live in a way that’s more responsible and deliberate? You do it by looking around you, no matter where you go, and say to yourself that you’re looking for things to feel good about and reasons to feel good and as you do this little by little, you begin to find things and reasons to feel good about.

As you feel good, you notice the good feelings and let the good feelings be there, you begin to let creativity in, you begin to let abundance in, you begin to let success in. Why? Because this is a fundamental principle of the universe, it comes down to the fact that everything is made up of energy that is vibrating at certain frequencies and for anything to be created it must find a match in that vibration.

So, change the way you feel and you’ll change your world!

We usually don’t give much thought to the distinction between “wanting” and “having”, we usually just say, “this is what I want, what do I have to do to get it?” But it’s a distinction that makes all the difference in what actually shows up for us in life.



Monday
Dec202010

Law of Clarity

The Law of Clarity
By: Brian Tracy

Clarity accounts for probably 80% of success and happiness. Lack of clarity is probably more responsible for frustration and underachievement than any other single factor. That's why we say that "Success is goals, and all else is commentary." People with clear, written goals, accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them could ever imagine. This is true everywhere and under all circumstances.

The Three Keys to High Achievement
You could even say that the three keys to high achievement are, "Clarity, Clarity, Clarity," with regard to your goals. Your success in life will be largely determined by how clear you are about what it is you really, really want.

Write and Rewrite Your Goals
The more you write and rewrite your goals and the more you think about them, the clearer you will become about them. The clearer you are about what you want, the more likely you are to do more and more of the things that are consistent with achieving them. Meanwhile, you will do fewer and fewer of the things that don't help to get the things you really want.

The Seven Step Process for Achieving Goals
Here, once more, is the simple, seven-step process that you can use to achieve your goals faster and easier than ever before.

First, decide exactly what you want in each area of your life. Be specific!

Second, write it down, clearly and in detail;

Third, set a specific deadline. If it is a large goal, break it down into sub-deadlines and write them down in order;

Fourth, make a list of everything you can think of that you are going to have to do to achieve your goal. As you think of new items, add them to your list;

Fifth, organize the items on your list into a plan by placing them in the proper sequence and priority;

Sixth, take action immediately on the most important thing you can do on your plan. This is very important!

Seventh, do something every day that moves you toward the attainment of one or more of your important goals. Maintain the momentum!

Join the Top 3%
Fewer than three percent of adults have written goals and plans that they work on every single day. When you sit down and write out your goals, you move yourself into the top 3% of people in our society. And you will soon start to get the same results that they do.

Review Your Goals Daily
Study and review your goals every day to be sure they are still your most important goals. You will find yourself adding goals to your list as time passes. You will also find yourself deleting goals that are no longer as important as you once thought. Whatever your goals are, plan them out thoroughly, on paper, and work on them every single day. This is the key to peak performance and maximum achievement.

Action Exercises
Here is how you can apply this law immediately:

First, make a list of ten goals that you would like to achieve in the coming year. Write them down in the present tense, as though a year has passed and you have already accomplished them.

Second, from your list of ten goals, ask yourself, "What one goal, if I were to accomplish it, would have the greatest positive impact on my life?" Whatever it is, put a circle around this goal and move it to a separate sheet of paper.

Third, practice the seven-step method described above on this goal. Set a deadline, make a plan, and put it into action and work on it every day. Make this goal your major definite purpose for the weeks and months ahead.

Get ready for some amazing changes in your life.